Why Won’t Trump Shut Up?


Let’s talk for a moment, shall we?

If your newsfeed on Facebook or Twitter is anything like mine, all those precious kitten memes have been replaced by memes of Donald Trump.

As a writer and a curious person, someone who tries to understand motivations of others, I have sought out conversations one-on-one with people who are Trump supporters. For the record, I have several family members and more than a handful of friends who are voting for Trump.  I have even lost some friends over my opposition to Trump.

I know, crazy, huh?

If this were a typical election year, I’d be distraught over the loss of those friendships and I’d worry about offending family members over my remarks about Trump. But this is not a typical election year and Trump is not a normal candidate.

He’s not even Republican. He’s a poser. And a very bad one at that. Republicans are beginning to distance themselves from Trump. only weeks after all that hoopla of nominating him. Even Newt Gingrich, arguably the grandfather of the Republican party and one of Trump’s potential VP picks, has come out and declared Trump  “unacceptable” according to the Washington Post. 

“Trump is helping her (Hillary) to win by proving he is more unacceptable than she is, ” Gingrich said.

Grinch said Trump has only a matter of weeks to reverse course. “Anybody who is horrified by Hillary should hope that Trump will take a deep breath and learn some new skills,” he said. “He cannot win the presidency operating the way he is now. She can’t be bad enough to elect him if he’s determined to make this many mistakes.”

I could write reams about Trump’s egregious behavior toward Gold Star families, but Mr. Khan has gone home. He doesn’t want to do any more interviews. I know how heavy his heart must be. I have had a glimpse of how vitriolic people can be at times. So for now, I’ll spare you all my thoughts and feelings about how Donald Trump has pissed on the families of the fallen.

What I want to talk to you about, however, is the one of the most common reasons that voters who continue to stand with Trump cite as an explanation for their support.

His general appeal to the masses is that he is perceived to be a very good business man. (We don’t, in fact, have any proof of that, given that he refuses to release his taxes or be held accountable.)  He’s had several Chapter 11 bankruptcies. We don’t know Trump’s financials. We don’t know how he makes his money. And let’s face it, it’s not like he started out with $400 in high school graduation gifts and his granny’s pass down car.

Capitalists are indoctrinated from birth to be drawn to wealth. It’s ingrained in us.  We have to fight against this attraction to the material life if we are to be any kind of decent person at all. It is not true that the boy with the most toys wins in the end. Your toys don’t go to the grave with you. The relationships you build do.

Donald Trump is not a relationship builder.

If Donald Trump were our neighbor, he’d be the asshole who pays to have a load of gravel dumped in our driveway  just for kicks. He’d be the one filing suit in court claiming that our fence line crossed his property by half-an-inch. He’d be the one whose friends parked up on the curb, blocking our drive for 24 hours. His wife would be the one who sunbathes nude in the backyard and then calls the police claiming we were Peeping Toms. Donald Trump would be the kind of neighbor who would report our dog for barking loudly as he stands at the fence poking it with a stick.

People who would never want to live next-door to Donald Trump want him to be their president.

What they say they love most about him is his unbridled tongue.

His supporters say that the thing they love best about Trump is he says what he thinks ( A gracious assumption on his supporters’ behalf. We have no factual proof whatsoever that this man thinks at all and a lot of evidence to the contrary.)

But let’s accept that assumption for a moment, shall we, and really consider what that means.

Trump supporters, who are dwindling with each passing day, have praised their candidate for having his say. They love that he is no respecter of person or position (as if this is somehow something to be valued). He is not beholding to anyone, they claim. Nobody owns this man. (We don’t know that for sure, but that’s been the claim of his supporters.)

Just recently a friend I cherish said to me that what he likes best about Trump is that he speaks his mind without regard for anyone.

Well, we’ve certainly seen proof of that in spades, haven’t we?

The thing I can’t quite wrap my brain around is that the people who are praising Trump for speaking his mind are the very same people who would have a stroke if their own grown children spoke to them the way Trump speaks.

Raise your hand if you would like to hear your son or daughter disrespect the families of the fallen the way Trump has done this week.

Raise your hand if you would like for your pastor to stop in the middle of his sermon and tell you to get your crying baby out of the sanctuary because, whether you understand it or not, he’s trying to make a point and your baby is distracting him.

Raise your hand if you would like your brother to go around calling you a crooked, no-good, lying cheat.

Raise your hand if you would like for your uncle to pass around nude photos of his wife during Thanksgiving dinner.

Raise your hand if you would like to go to the mall with your grandfather calling out “Terrorists” every time he sees a man or woman of Middle Eastern descent, or “Rapist” every time he sees a Mexican, or “Nigger'” every time he sees a tall thin black man, or “Whore” every time he sees a woman older than fifty.

Raise your hand if you would like to have a pastor stand in the pulpit and talk about how hot his daughter is, and how if he wasn’t her pastor and dad, he might like to date her because she’s got a great body, nice boobs.

Raise your hand if you want to be on the golf course with the guy who spends 18 holes telling you how he’s going to kick your ass, how he’s going to win the game.

Raise your hand if you want to work for the man who doesn’t want to provide you with health insurance, or family leave or pay you a competitive wage. Or even a living wage.

Raise your hand if you want to do business with a man who refuses to pay you what he owes you.

Raise your hand if you want to  be friends with the man who coaxes a disabled veteran into giving him a Purple Heart and then brags, “I’ve always wanted one of these. Boy, this was a lot easier to get than yours was, huh?”

Yeah. I didn’t think so.

Remember when your mama used to tell you that if you didn’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all?

Remember when your father gave you the silent treatment for a week because you talked back and he wanted you to know that you should never talk ugly like that to him or anyone else?

Remember when your granny taught you the Scripture verse “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps his soul from troubles”?

Remember when you said something ugly in front of your grandfather and he responded with that  verse out of Matthew:  “What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them.”

Remember when self-control was a trait to be admired in others?

Remember when the people we all respected most were the quiet and dignified among us?

The question Newt and other GOP leaders keep asking each other is “Why won’t Trump just shut up?”

Of course, the bulk of voters are wondering the same thing.

Tell me again why you think Donald Trump would make such a fine president.

Karen Spears Zacharias is an author and journalist. She will not be voting for Donald Trump for all the obvious reasons.

For a closer look at how unbridled is the tongue of Donald Trump supporters, click here. 


Karen Spears Zacharias

Author/Journalist/Educator. Gold Star Daughter.



about 6 years ago

It's called projection. We project onto a candidate all our hopes (fantasies??) for a near-instant remake of our country, our economy, or whatever bugs us. The more unconventional and unknown the candidate, the more projections we seem able to load up. Logic, fact, actual cost or implications of our hopes/fantasies have little or nothing to do with it. A workplace acquaintance recently told me he once had reservations about Trump but that "if he surrounds himself with the right people, he'll do alright." Mighty big "if". From other conversations, however, I think it comes down to one thing for this man: guns. Donald Trump won't take his guns away. Hillary will. Uh-huh. Ms. H can no more take this man's guns away than Mr. T can build a wall that Mexico will pay for. Still, we like to project...



about 5 years ago

boy, i wish it were still in doubt how this election is 'going to turn out'. exhausting is a word that comes to mind. another is disgraceful. trump is the worst president of the modern era. he is a singularly terrible leader. at least those sane americans who oppose his agenda have each other for support. regards to you and hang in there.



about 4 years ago



Karen Velazquez

about 2 years ago

Trump is once again in TV spewing his crap and lies!!! When he comes in the TV, I usually just flip him off now and change the channel. Oh boy, he just won't shut up. Even if we take away the news reporting, how can anyone with common sense possibly still defend the crap that comes out of his mouth.


Karen Spears Zacharias

about 2 years ago

I ask that same question about 20 times a day. I have no idea how it is anyone can stand to listen to him much less believe anything he says.


Karen Spears Zacharias

about 2 years ago

I not only turn off any video of him, I turn off the radio whenever I hear his voice. It grates on my nerves.


Tom Crawford

about 2 years ago

Karen, I think you are right about the often rude and callous things President Trump says. I wish we had a person of better moral character and more temperate speech as our Chief Executive. But alas, the person who was on the electoral menu opposing him in 2016 held views on matters of policy that were antithetical to my own beliefs. And the election was a binary choice. So I decided reluctantly to hold my nose and vote for Trump. When we filter out his narcissistic blather and his ill-considered tweets, which are clearly un-Presidential, I believe that most, while not all, of his actual policy actions have been more in line with what I believe to be correct regarding national defense, business regulations, taxation, and our relationships with other countries. I notably disagree with him on immigration. I suppose I am just more willing to put up with his often offensive personality to get those actions than are others, and this is why we have elections. If there had been any other realistic alternative to Hillary Clinton last time around, believe me, I'd have taken it. Sadly, in my view, and this is just one man's opinion, we are faced with largely the same choice in 2020. Joe Biden may well be the nicer man, but he has, in my view, failed to get much of anything done in a positive way in 47 years of government service, and has taken positions that are diametrically opposed to what I think are good for the country. So what am I to do? Just not vote at all? I'm not electing a buddy, or someone I want to socialize with. I'm electing a Chief Executive who aligns with policies I agree with, even if he is an asshole. I can tune that part out, but I cannot escape the consequences of policy decisions. So I think I'm pretty much stuck with Trump in 2020.


Karen Spears Zacharias

about 2 years ago

Well, apparently we do not see reality the same way. 1)We are not stronger internationally; our administration is the laughing-stock of the world and we have essentially abandoned any positive influence; unless green-lighting Israeli and Saudi policies are your desired outcomes. Clearly with ongoing interference from Russian and Chinese social media trolls and hacking, no gains in those areas have been made in 4 years. In fact, the current Administration denies this is even happening. 2)While business deregulation may improve the bottom line for many corporations, much of it is unjust for the little guy and for the environment in the long run. There is no evidence that deregulation benefited the economy either in the short-term over the past 4 years or will it in the long-term. The economy this Administration inherited kept on pace with the previous decade, but household income growth actually stalled significantly: around $6000 during the Obama years down to less than $2000 under this Administration before the Pandemic. 3)Similarly, the tax cut overwhelmingly benefited the wealthy and corporations that have a disproportionate influence in policy-making for a supposedly democratic society. Again, GDP growth has generally been on pace during this Administration with the previous decade and Obama still had two quarters of greater growth than what this Administration has achieved, though that was coming out of a recession. 4)Certainly this Administration has installed "conservative" judicial nominees; however, recent decisions on unanimous juries and voting rights, demonstrated no faithfulness to parsing words or the actual intent of the framers but of an insistence of having 'things our way.' 5)The politicization of our bureaucracy under the justification guise of conspiracy-theory driven 'deep state' interference at the DOJ, HHS, and CDC are nothing short of Banana Republican style governing which should appall and frighten every true believer in our Declaration of Independence and beliefs about the essence of American greatness. 6)The abandonment of national leadership in the face of the Pandemic is a damning indictment on this Administration's ability to truly lead. This is especially true now that we know what he knew and when he knew it. The 'downplaying' excuse can be made until the cows come home, but the reality is that he did not just downplay the Pandemic with his public expressions but by his personal actions and lack of policy development. In fact, it appears that a national policy was developed and then abandoned owing to the fact that the Pandemic was only hitting 'blue states.' Finally, let's not forget that while Biden was in Congress or as VP he supported legislation to expand justice for the disabled, women, people of color, undocumented denizens brought into the country as infants and minor children, and expanded health care for the low income. Now, some of these measures were perhaps not perfect, but he GOP generally and the current Administration has done nothing to improve on these 'perceived flaws,' but they have instead only made them weaker and less effective despite constant false promises that they have done otherwise. So, you may be stuck with him in 2020, but I will most definitely choose Biden - genuineness and a heart - win my vote!


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