Remember Bean: Kind heart. Kind thoughts. Kind words.
Those were some of the last words our daughter spoke to her two-year old son before heading off on a week-long vacation and entrusting the care of her son to the grands. It’s no easy thing leaving a toddler behind. Parents have to be willing to trust that their child will be loved with abandoned and monitored like a first baseman looking to steal second. Look away for a minute and you’re sure to regret it.
Raising four kids of your own to successful adulthood does not in and of itself qualify a person to be trustworthy enough to keep a grandchild for any length of time. In fact, a person’s work history as a parent may disqualify them completely from the job of being a grand. I’ve heard from more than one friend how their children don’t trust them. They usually say with with a “Oh Brother!” eye roll and smirk. It’s a conspiratorial thing grandparents do when they are around other grandparents – eye rolling.