Why I’m okay with that Klan Rally

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For the record, I do have an uncle named James Spears. He died a few years ago. So as far as I know I am of no relation to the James Spears, the Great Titan of the Loyal White Knights of the Klu Klux Klan, the group who is sponsoring an upcoming rally in support of the Confederate Flag flying over South Carolina.

Spears is all over the headlines for announcing the plans for the rally to be held next month at the South Carolina Statehouse. According to the Washington Post, the request for the rally was made one day after S.C. Gov. Nikki Haley announced that she would call on state lawmakers to remove the flag following the racists act that led to the slaying of nine people at a historic church in Charleston.

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Intentional Acts of Kindness


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My girlfriend and I were talking about things, you know the way you do when you get together with a friend you haven’t visited with for awhile. We were catching up on all the family and friends goings on.

Our family had a new baby this week. The one I wrote about here.  She arrived a few days early. Kind of a poetic thing, really. Kensington was born on June 23. Mama’s birthday was January 23.  Everybody is happy and healthy.

My sister, the baby’s grandmother, prays specific prayers over each of her grandchildren. By that I mean she prays character traits right into her grandchildren before they are even born.

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In the world of souls



“Every flower created by God is beautiful. The brilliance of the rose and the whiteness of the lily do not lessen the perfume of the violet or the sweet simplicity of the daisy. If all the lowly flowers wished to be roses, nature would no longer be enameled with lovely hues. And so it is in the world of souls, our Lord’s living garden.” – St. Theresa of Lisieux

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If you want to teach a child to hate


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If you want to teach a child to hate, you have to be a hater first. You cannot teach a child to hate if you go around loving on everybody. It is best that you model hatred from a very early age. Children are sponges. They will soak up your attitudes long before they are able to mimic your words. So, first and foremost, you must be a hater yourself if you are to have any hope of raising a child to hate.

If you want to teach a child to hate, you must channel your own hatred. Preferably toward a particular person or a specific group of people. Hatred works best in concentrated doses. Don’t just go around hating on everyone, lest your child dismiss you as just a crotchety nut case. In order to establish credibility with your child, you must love them while hating others. This is not difficult to do. It is easy to love your own, and easier yet to hate those who aren’t like you. You must teach your child that is what it takes to be family: To love only those who look and believe as you look and believe.

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Kensington Barnes: A Story of Firsts

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We have been expecting you.

Not just your mom and dad,

But all of us,

The Spears Family.

With each pregnancy – there have been nine of them prior to yours! – we all wondered, wished, and sometimes prayed: A girl.

Maybe this time it will be a girl. 

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Sometimes we shed tears when we discovered it was a boy instead.

Oh. Brother. Another.

Don’t think ill of us.

Don’t think us ungrateful.

It is a great gift to be a girl anticipated,

A girl longed for,

A girl prayed for,

A girl wanted.

So many girls around the world never know what it means to be wanted,

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